Musings of Fellow Travellers

1. What do you think your life will be like ten years from now? Hopefully, not a lot different than it is now. Though I am contemplating moving to somewhere without stairs.

2. Where would you travel, if you could go anywhere? I’d love to take a cruise through the entire Northwest Passage.

3. Explain how you chose your career path. I started college intending to major in chemistry but didn’t like organic chemistry my freshman year. I read something about the Boston Arm, which was one of the earliest prosthetic limbs attached to the body’s nervous system and was intrigued. That led me to the mechanical engineering department. One of the two classes I took first semester sophomore year in that major was Intro to Systems Engineering, which really clicked with me. People told me if I liked that, I should take Control Systems and that’s what I ended up doing and going to graduate school for. When I was job hunting, I found that there were a lot of interesting controls problems in the aerospace industry, so most of the jobs I interviewed for were in that area. It worked out well for me.

4. Write about the last time weather scared you. Probably the last time I got caught driving through a severe thunderstorm.

5. What animal do you identify with most closely? Probably bears. I’m chubby and hairy, but still very cute.

6. What kind of jobs have you had in the past? In high school, I got paid for tutoring, primarily for math and science New York State Regents exams. I also was a summer camp counselor the summer after my freshman year of college. I worked desk at my dorm at MIT. I particularly liked doing the mail because I got paid for a full hour for it, but it generally took me less time than that. I also did that during the summers, as well as doing maid work when the dorms were used to house conference attendees. Most of those jobs reminded me that I was in school so I didn’t have to do jobs like that for the rest of my life. On a more occasional basis, I got paid for being a test subject for research projects. I only did one psych experiment that I can remember, but I did a lot of experiments for people who were working on speech processing. Those basically involved reading sentences into a tape recorder. The only requirement was being a native speaker of English and, for some reason, they thought New York qualified. You could only do two hours at a time, but you got enough money to afford to go out to dinner at Joyce Chen’s Monday night vegetarian buffet.

7. What is one skill you wish you had and how would that make your life different? I wish I had a long enough attention span to get my condo organized.

8. Have you ever had an incident because you overslept? I’ve sometimes missed an event I planned to go to because I overslept, but I’ve never had anything happen with real consequences.

9. How much was Gas the last time you filled up? I think I paid $2.79 a gallon near the Myrtle Beach Airport a couple of weeks ago.

10. What kinds of activities when on at the kitchen table at home when you grew up (eating doesn't count)? I did most of my homework at the kitchen table. I also spent time there drawing and coloring. And we played board games there a lot - everything from Candyland when my brother and I were little to countless games of backgammon with my mother and scrabble with my father later on.

11. What is the biggest risk you have ever taken? Probably going to Berkeley to go to grad school. Moving to California triggered a lot of culture shock.

12. When was the last time you sent or received a card from someone? My brother sent me a birthday card.

13. If money were no object, what would you spend your days doing? I’d fly in business class a lot more.

14. What is one thing in your life that requires immediate attention? I need to go grocery shopping.

15. How do you feel about change and uncertainties? I like change. I like to go to places I haven’t been to before, for example. And I usually like meeting new people.

16. Which foods do you remember eating often as a child? I’ve told this story before but it is worth repeating. My mother once bought 12 cases of bottled borscht, 24 bottles per case, as part of our local public television station’s annual fundraising auction. She gave some of it away, but we did eat borscht for dinner at least once a week for ages. Borscht with sour cream and boiled potatoes is still one of my favorite hot weather dinners. (We usually had a second course of tuna croquettes.) When my mother died (many many years later), my uncle and I found one bottle of borscht in the pantry and we joked that it was the last one from that purchase.

17. What kind of art is your favorite or least favorite? Why? When it comes to painting, I generally prefer modern art to old masters, though there are exceptions. I am often impressed by how a given painter uses color to invoke mood. I also like photorealism, including works by Edward Hopper and Richard Estes. I tend to prefer figurative sculpture to abstract sculpture, however. As for “why,” I suppose some of it is familiarity, but I’d also say there have been works of art I’ve seen that I made me see the world in different ways. Those range from Van Gogh’s “Starry Night” to Duchamp’s “Nude Descending a Staircase” (which captures movement more effectively than any other painting I’ve seen) to Faith Ringgold’s story quilts.

18. What do you think makes a happy family? I think families are happiest when their members respect one another, including accepting their differences.

19. How do you decide if you trust a person or not? Frankly, I find trust to be mostly a matter of instinct. I have been fooled by people who I thought were good people who turned out to be deceitful users, but, for the most part, I trust my judgmement.

20. How many pillows are on your bed? Generally, two or three. I normally like flat, squishy pillows, unless I have a cold.

21. Tell me about an old friend you've lost touch with. I stayed in touch with my best friend from high school for several years, but we lost touch when she got married to a man who I didn’t much care for.

22. Think of a loved one that you have lost. If you could ask this person one question, what would you ask, and what do you think they would say? There are lots of things I’d like to be able to ask my parents and grandparents. My paternal grandmother was killed in the Shoah and I’d love to be able to ask her what my Dad was like as a child.

23. What would you write in a letter you could send back in time to yourself as a teen-ager? Mostly, I’d like to be able to tell younger me not to take myself so seriously. There are lots of specifics, e.g. focusing on health instead of weight, and learning to deal with my curly hair instead of getting it straightened, etc., but the gist of the message I wish I’d learned earlier was that I’m basically okay.

24. How do you think instant riches would affect your friendships and familial relationships? I’d like to think they wouldn’t affect most of my relationships. Except, I know my brother would always be at my heels, begging for money.

25. Can you buy happiness? Money can’t buy happiness, but it can buy things that can distract you from misery.

26. What is a secret about you? If I wrote it here, it wouldn’t be a secret any more now, would it?

27. If you could travel anywhere in the world for a vacation, where would it be and why? Didn’t I answer that already in question 2? Seriously, I’d like to go almost anywhere that: a) I hadn’t already been and b) is not an active war zone.

28. Tell about a story when you got a parking ticket or traffic violation. I got a speeding ticket from a speed camera in D.C. once.

29. Is there a movie that has brought you to tears? Tell about it. There have been several. Let’s go with The Visitor, an exquisite 2007 movie directed by Tom McCarthy about a widowed professor (played perfectly by Richard Jenkins) who finds an illegal immigrant couple living in his apartment. (Note that this is entirely unrelated to the 1979 and 2022 movies by the same name.) This is one of my favorite movies of all time.

30. Name one of the kindest people you have ever met. Why? My friend, Teri, stand out. For example, when we eat out, she gets her leftovers wrapped up and gives them to homeless people.

31. Tell about a time you laughed until you cried. Back in 1998 I was on a trip on the St. Helena mail ship and one night, I was playing Pictionary with a few people. I don’t remember the exact trigger, but it might have had to do with my inability to draw a lamb. At any rate, one of the others said something that started me laughing uncontrollably. I eventually had to go to my cabin to stop.

Before I move on to things I did in August, let’s make an attempt to get more up to date on the ever popular celebrity death watch. This will cover May through July. I intend to do August and September next week and then I’ll be caught up for, uh, maybe a few hours.

Celebrity Death Watch - May 2025: Ruth Buzzi was a comedian, best known for appearing on Rowan and Martin’s Laugh-In. Jill Sobule was a singer-songwriter, whose biggest hit was “I Kissed a Girl.” James Baker was the drummer for various punk rock groups, including Beasts of Bourbon. Stephen Fabian was a fantasy and science fiction illustrator. Nate Holden was a member of the Los Angeles City Council. John Edward sang with The Spinners. Richard Garwin was the author of the first hydrogen bomb design. Junior Byles was a reggae singer. Norma Meras Swenson co-founded the Boston Women’s Health Book Collective and co-authored Our Bodies, Ourselves, a book that was essential reading for women of my generation. Roger Nichols was a songwriter whose songs included “We’ve Only Just Begun” and “Times of Your Life.” George Wendt played Norm on Cheers. Mary Katharine Gaillard was the first tenured female physicist at Berkeley. Susan Brownmiller wrote the book Against Our Will: Men, Women, and Rape which raised awareness of the impact of rape on our society. Phil Robertson was the patriarch of the Duck Dynasty Robertson family. Robert Jarvik developed an artificial heart. George E. Smith was a co-inventor of the charge-coupled device and shared in the 2009 Nobel Prize in Physics. Loretta Swit played “Hot Lips” Houlihan on M*A*S*H.

David Souter was a Supreme Court Justice from 1990 through 2009. George Bush appointed him, thinking he’d be a reliable conservative and he was opposed by both NOW and NAACP at the time. However, in part because of his respect for precedent and because of his recognition that all Supreme Court decisions have impacts on actual people, he came to be considered a liberal justice. He was probably the greatest intellectual of the people who’ve served on the Supreme Court in my lifetime and I had a lot of respect for him.

Charles Strouse was the composer of several musicals, including Bye Bye Birdie , Applause, and Annie. My favorite of his collaborations with Lee Adams was It’s a Bird, It’s a Plane, It’s Superman. An interesting bit of trivia is that he was Frank Loesser’s rehearsal pianist.

George Leitmann was a professor of mechanical engineering at the University of California, Berkeley. I studied optimal control and game theory with him.

Gerry Connolly was my Congresscritter, starting in 2009. While I generally agreed with his positions, I detested his use of autodialers.

Celebrity Death Watch - June 2025: Fred Espenak was an astrophysicist at Goddard Space Flight Center, known for his eclipse predictions. Dennis Waitley was a motivational speaker. Frederick Forsyth wrote thrillers, including The Day of the Jackal and The Odessa File. David H. Murdock owned Castle & Cooke and Dole Food Company. Sly Stone was a musician and songwriter. Jonathan Mayers co-founded the Bonnaroo and Outside Lands music festivals. John Robbins wrote Diet for a New America, which seems ironic for a descendant of the Baskin-Robbins ice cream dynasty. Mary Alice Torrance Malone was the heiress to the Campbell Soup Company. Ron Taylor was a relief pitcher for the 1969 “Miracle” Mets and later went to medical school, ending up a team physician for the Toronto Blue Jays. Charles Burrell was a bass player who was the first African American to be a member of a major American symphony. Sir Francis Graham-Smith was the astronomer royal from 1982-1990. Frederick W. Smith founded FedEx. Mick Ralphs played guitar for Mott the Hoople and Bad Company.

Surely you don’t need me to tell you who Brian Wilson was. But, in case you forgot, he sang with The Beach Boys (and on his own) and wrote songs like “Good Vibrations” and had a couple of very well publicized mental breakdowns. During a short period of the time that I lived in Venice, California (in the late 1980’s), there was a club a block or so from my apartment that played surf music for dancing on weekend afternoons. I still miss that place.

Bobby Sherman was an actor and pop singer. I had a huge crush on him when I was a pre-teen. My best friend and I would rush home to watch him in the TV show Here Come the Brides. And I am sure my whole family was sick of listening to me playing the 45 of “Julie, Do Ya Love Me.”

Bill Moyers was a journalist and political commentator. He had also been White House press secretary for most of a year under LBJ.

Celebrity Death Watch - July 2025: Alex Delvecchio was a Hall of Fame hockey player for the Detroit Red Wings. Jimmy Swaggart was a television evangelist. Richard Greenberg was a playwright, best known for Take Me Out. David Kaff was an actor, best known for playing the keyboard player in This Is Spinal Tap. Martin Cruz Smith wrote the novel Gorky Park. Dave Cousins was the lead singer of Strawbs. Robert Fuller co-founded The Hunger Project. Connie Francis was a pop singer, probably best known for covering “Who’s Sorry Now?” Jack McAuliffe founded New Albion Brewing Company, considered the first American microbrewery of the modern era. Edwin Feulneer founded the right wing think tank, The Heritage Foundation. Malcolm-Jamal Warner was an actor, best known for playing Theodore on The Cosby Show. Chuck Mansion was a flugelhornist and composer. Hulk Hogan was a professional wrestler. Cleo Laine was a jazz singer. Wallis Annenberg was a philanthropist who used her inherited wealth to support a variety of educational and arts organizations. Cecile Dionne was the fourth of the Dionne quintuplets to die, leaving just her sister Annette. Ryne Sandberg played second base, primarily for the Chicago Cubs, and later managed the Phillies.Allan Ahlberg wrote a lot of children’s books, many of which were illustrated by his late wife, Janet. Paul Mario Day was the original lead vocalist of Iron Maiden. Robert Wilson wrote the libretto for the opera Einstein on the Beach, which is probably better known for its music by Philip Glass.

Alan Bergman was a songwriter. He and his wife, Marilyn (who died in 2022), wrote lyrics for pieces by several composers, notably Marvin Hamlisch and Michel Legrand. Some of the songs they are known for include “The Windmills of Your Mind,” “The Way We Were,” “Yellow Bird,” and “In the Heat of the Night.”

Ozzy Osborne headed up the group Black Sabbath. I’d say he was a colorful character, but black is technically not a color. Incidents like him biting the head off a bat are, alas, more memorable than any of his music, in my opinion.

Tom Lehrer was best known for his humorous / satirical songs. I was raised on his work. My father regularly brought home comedy records and Lehrer was part of the rotation, along with Allan Sherman and various spoken word recordings like “You Don’t Have to Be Jewish.” Some of Lehrer’s most popular songs include “The Elements,” “The Vatican Rag,” and “The Masochism Tango.” I also saw the off-Broadway show “Tomfoolery,” based on his songs. By the way, I had forgotten at first that he was on my ghoul pool list but remembered in time to collect my 2 points.